The Expectation of Excitement.
Young cashiers at the supermarket usually ask me: ” How’s your day going so far? Are you planning something exciting for today?” At first, I felt awkward. What could I possibly answer? I lead a simple, mindful life, run errands, prepare wholesome meals, do some exercise, and work on creative personal projects. I find purpose and meaning in the unhurried present moment, but to some in a young generation, that might not seem exciting at all. Our contemporary culture has vigorously marketed the idea that a well-lived life should involve constant stimulation, new people, new experiences, and endless bucket-list achievements. The lifestyle portrayed in movies showing private jets, beach parties, and constant movement confuses stimulation with fulfillment, creating a cycle in which the thrills have to get bigger and bigger to avoid feeling empty.
The Trap of the Fast Lane.
When meaning is determined by the next thrill, the still moments in between become unbearable. This is why so many in that highly privileged, fast-lane demographic struggle with anxiety and depression. They have structured their lives so loudly that they cannot tolerate silence. When the music stops and the jet lands, they are left alone with themselves, and that isolation is daunting.
Trusting the Present Moment.
So, how do we confirm our purpose? A good start is when our daily actions align with our values and natural talents, when something carries a positive meaning. Meaning is subjective and changes with age, culture, and circumstances, yet it is sometimes perceived as a still-abiding center rather than a constant diversion.
When we follow the feeling of the present moment, we allow the synchronicity to take place. It could be a simple choice, such as having a cup of coffee. Then, while enjoying the moment, we decide to call a friend, who may bring good news that benefits us. The possibilities are endless. When the feeling of the present moment comes from our heart and is not a rational decision, that feeling determines our next step and the next; as we follow our hunch, everything is synchronized for us to be at the right place, with the right people, at the right time to fulfill a purpose.
Awareness is the vast, silent space of existence. Purpose is what we decide to do with it.